Everyone on Facebook knows what you’re thankful for now, but…
How did you SHOW it to the people you mentioned in the post?
Yep, I’m poking you in the ribs right now if you put a “thank you” post up Facebook during Thanksgiving a few weeks back.
BUT…I’m only making funny of you if you didn’t take the time to show those people thanks as well.
That’s the whole point of this post: showing thanks and not waiting for the holidays to do it.
3 reasons why showing thanks is much more powerful than saying thanks:
Reason #1: Actions Speak Louder Than Words
You can’t help the giddy feeling you get when someone else spent time out of their day thinking about you.
Everyone feels that way, even the semi-celebrity figures of the business world we all look up to.
Let me sum this up in a different way for you…
Think of how many Christmas presents you’ve gotten in the last 5 years. Which ones do you remember?
Most of the Christmas presents I’ve gotten in the past have been cash. I love money (and I’m not complaining about receiving it), but a personal touch is missing in cash gifts.
The present that sticks out most to me in the past few years is what my girlfriend got for me last year: a beer brewing kit, boot-shaped shot glasses and the movie Beerfest.
I told Heather that I wanted to brew my own beer sometime and that was what she thought of for my gift. I could tell she put a lot of time into finding the right kit and adding a few thoughtful pieces to the gift as well.
Let’s take a look at a few popular influencers in the business world…let’s say Jordan Harbinger and John Lee Dumas.
These guys get 100’s of emails every single day thanking them for what they do.
It’s all probably the same stuff too…”Your book (or podcast) changed my life, etc.”
There’s nothing wrong with that and I’m sure they love seeing those emails. But that’s what everyone sends.
Stick out amongst the crowd by sending an email thanking them for something very specific about their work that has impacted your life.
For example, Jordan Harbinger is the host of a top-rated podcast, The Art of Charm. Instead of sending an email to Jordan like this:
Just wanted to say I really enjoy listening to The Art of Charm Podcast. Totally life changing!
Write something like this:
Just wanted to say I really enjoy listening to your podcast. The most recent episode with John Lee Dumas was great in so many ways! I love hearing about the imposter syndrome you guys talked about on that episode because it’s so common for us to feel like we are inadequate when we first start our business. Knowing that you guys felt similar when starting out is really helping me with getting my business off of the ground!
Simple, yet effective.
When we live in a world of scarcity, we live our life in a way in which we’re scared of losing things. Examples…
- #1: I’m not going to risk starting a business for fear that if it doesn’t work out I may not be able to get my job back.
- #2: This is a once in a lifetime opportunity.
When we live in a world of abundance, we live our life in a way that we look at all the opportunities around us. Counterexamples:
- #1: Starting a business would make me happy so I’m going to try it. If I fail, I can try to get my old job back. If they don’t want me, there are plenty of other employers who will.
- #2: This is a great opportunity, among many others, and I’m going to weigh the pros and cons of seizing it. (How many opportunities are TRULY once in a lifetime? Very few in my opinion.)
When you take the time to show gratitude towards others, you realize there’s so much to be thankful for in the world.
There are so many great people and opportunities in your life.
3 Essential Gratitude Habits That Will Accelerate Your Success
Now you need the actionables. How does one go about showing thanks?
I’ve made these essential habits a part of my weekly routine. I spend just a few hours each week (that I have blocked off in my calendar) doing the things below, and it’s done wonders for my career.
Habit #1: Writing Recommendations or Reviews For Others
A badass LinkedIn profile is a great networking tool to have. I don’t know a single person that wouldn’t appreciate a recommendation from a friend or colleague.
Write 1 LinkedIn recommendation each week for a friend, coworker, mentor or someone else who has impacted your life in some way.
If you’re not a big LinkedIn user, start an account. Start adding people that you know and people that you look up to.
If those same people have review sites set up for their business or books, write them a review on Yelp or Amazon.
Habit #2: Making Introductions
Introducing someone to another person of similar interests is one of the best ways to show thanks.
It is very crucial that you make GREAT introductions though. You don’t want to be the person that introduces people that are not a good fit, it’s just awkward for everyone involved (learn from my mistakes!).
Most people miss this crucial step: asking both parties for permission first. The last thing anyone wants to do is blow another person off because they’re not a good fit. Don’t make it awkward for the people you’re introducing.
Here are exact emails I’ve sent out to John Lee Dumas at Entrepreneur On Fire:
Subject: Would You Like An Intro To Vanessa Van Edwards?
Hey John!Have another guest to send your way if you’re interested. Here are some highlights about Vanessa Van Edwards:
- Founder and CEO of Science of People
- She’s a human behavioral expert and helps business people use human behavioral science to sell better, network better and become more likable
- Has a great YouTube channel TONS of videos your entrepreneurial audience would benefit from
- Has been on several podcasts, including The Art of Charm and The School of Greatness
- Has been featured in CNN, Forbes, NPR and is a contributor to the Huffington Post
- She’s an instructor with Creative LiveI just recorded a show with her and noticed that she hasn’t been on your podcast! She was great and I think you’d love having her share her story with your audience.Would you like an intro?
I sent a similar email to Vanessa asking her if she would like an introduction to John. They both said “yes.”
Notice that I mentioned why I think they would be a good fit for each other.
Then I sent this email:
Subject: E-Intro: John Lee Dumas & Vanessa Van Edwards
John, Vanessa is who I was telling you about that runs Science of People up here in Portland, Oregon. Just had her on the show and she was great!Vanessa, John runs Entrepreneur on Fire and he said that he is looking for qualified female entrepreneurs for his show!Glad I could connect you guys and I’m excited to see what comes of this conversation!
Take the extra effort to not only introduce like-minded people, but also to make sure you have their permission first.
Habit #3: Sending Cards
We hear about the importance of hand-written thank you cards all the time. I see the point, but I don’t think you need to send a hand-written card to someone to show that you took the time to think about them.
I use Postagram to send customized postcards to family, friends and colleagues. Postagram is great because you can include a picture along with your custom message. Postcards only cost $.99 – $1.99 to send so they’re very affordable as well.
Here’s what they look like:
Here’s The Kicker: Showing Gratitude Must Be A Regular Habit
Hopefully you got a few ideas on how you can show thanks. Maybe you’ve already heard of all of these things before.
Just remember there’s a difference between knowing and doing.
Make these habits a part of your weekly routine and you’ll see results in a matter of weeks.
No, you can’t measure an ROI from this or see any visible gains…and that’s not what I mean. You’re going to feel better about yourself and you’re going to notice that more people start going out of their way to do things for you.
Will you block off 2 hours over the course of this week to make these habits a part of your routine?
Any other creative things you’ve done to show gratitude? How has this worked for you? Post your thoughts below!